What is why does he give me attention and then ignore me?

It's frustrating to experience someone giving you attention and then suddenly ignoring you. There could be various reasons for this behavior, and it's often difficult to pinpoint the exact cause without direct communication. Here are some possible explanations:

  • Internal Conflict or Insecurity: He may be struggling with his own emotions or insecurities. He might enjoy the attention he receives from you but then pulls away because he doubts himself, fears rejection, or isn't ready for a relationship.

  • Mixed Signals or Unclear Intentions: He might not be sure what he wants from the relationship. He could be experimenting with flirting and connection but then back off when he feels it's becoming too serious or because his intentions were never serious in the first place.

  • Playing Games: Unfortunately, some people intentionally play games with others' emotions. He might be seeking attention and validation, and pulling away is a way to maintain control or keep you interested. This behavior is often a sign of manipulation.

  • External Factors: His behavior could be influenced by external factors like stress, work commitments, family issues, or the opinions of his friends. Something in his life may have changed, leading him to become distant.

  • Fear of Commitment: He might be afraid of commitment or a serious relationship. Getting close to someone can be scary for some people, and pulling away is their way of avoiding vulnerability.

  • Changing Interests: While it may be hurtful, his interests might have shifted. He could have met someone else or decided he's looking for something different.

  • Misinterpretation of Signals: It's possible that he misinterpreted your signals. He might have thought you were interested in something casual, and when he realized you wanted something more, he backed off.

Ultimately, the best way to understand his behavior is to try to communicate with him directly (if you feel comfortable doing so). Be prepared for him to be honest (or not), and remember that his actions are ultimately a reflection of him, not you.